jorats said:
She's being forced and not happy at all. And worse yet, now the social worker thinks she may be able to make it at home but we know she can't. It's a huge mess.crumbilina said:
jorats said:She's being forced and not happy at all. And worse yet, now the social worker thinks she may be able to make it at home but we know she can't. It's a huge mess.crumbilina said:
I think the worse part is that my hubby and I are the only ones who can do this for her. Her other son is in the Soo and he's never really been a part of anything with us. Right now, there's no talking to her. She keeps saying she wants to die if she goes into a nursing home. She has colon cancer, had a stroke and now diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She does wonky things like put salt and pepper in her tea, or put clean pots and pans in the fridge. Once she went to stir her casserole in the stove with her hand. So we are quite worried about her. They did her cognizant test and mobile test, she failed with 15 on 30. She has a 50% chance of falling because her mobility is really bad.crumbilina said:jorats said:She's being forced and not happy at all. And worse yet, now the social worker thinks she may be able to make it at home but we know she can't. It's a huge mess.crumbilina said:
Oh dear
I went through something similar with my grandmother last year. She was 93 but still sharp as a tack. Everyone kinda gave up on her, except me and my mom. We fought for her to stay home. She was so upset when they (the rest of my family) forced her in. They even tried to force her to sell her house (This was possibly the worst of all - they practically forced her to sign the papers... I freaked out - not good for her, but I made my point, and she didn't sell the house). It was horrible.
If you can talk to her about what she thinks about the whole thing it might help. Let her talk. Then, you can make her points into something good. I talked to my grandma about how she will be getting great meals and not have to make them. How there will always be someone to talk to and if you wanted to be alone you can just close the door and no one will bother you. How there were bingo nights and pianos to listen to and card games to play. I even promised her that I would call her every night, and I made sure that I did. Eventually things started to get better.
I don't know your full situation, but these are the things I wish the rest of my family would have done. After making it a positive experience the move was easier. I hope things start to improve and go a bit more smoothly for you. I would never wish for anyone to go through this, it tears at you.
:hugs:
eagle said:
Not what you want to see coming towards you.
jorats said:I think the worse part is that my hubby and I are the only ones who can do this for her. Her other son is in the Soo and he's never really been a part of anything with us. Right now, there's no talking to her. She keeps saying she wants to die if she goes into a nursing home. She has colon cancer, had a stroke and now diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She does wonky things like put salt and pepper in her tea, or put clean pots and pans in the fridge. Once she went to stir her casserole in the stove with her hand. So we are quite worried about her. They did her cognizant test and mobile test, she failed with 15 on 30. She has a 50% chance of falling because her mobility is really bad.crumbilina said:jorats said:She's being forced and not happy at all. And worse yet, now the social worker thinks she may be able to make it at home but we know she can't. It's a huge mess.crumbilina said:
Oh dear
I went through something similar with my grandmother last year. She was 93 but still sharp as a tack. Everyone kinda gave up on her, except me and my mom. We fought for her to stay home. She was so upset when they (the rest of my family) forced her in. They even tried to force her to sell her house (This was possibly the worst of all - they practically forced her to sign the papers... I freaked out - not good for her, but I made my point, and she didn't sell the house). It was horrible.
If you can talk to her about what she thinks about the whole thing it might help. Let her talk. Then, you can make her points into something good. I talked to my grandma about how she will be getting great meals and not have to make them. How there will always be someone to talk to and if you wanted to be alone you can just close the door and no one will bother you. How there were bingo nights and pianos to listen to and card games to play. I even promised her that I would call her every night, and I made sure that I did. Eventually things started to get better.
I don't know your full situation, but these are the things I wish the rest of my family would have done. After making it a positive experience the move was easier. I hope things start to improve and go a bit more smoothly for you. I would never wish for anyone to go through this, it tears at you.
:hugs:
I can say, I've never ever felt this much guilt and stress over anything else before.
jorats said:I think the worse part is that my hubby and I are the only ones who can do this for her. Her other son is in the Soo and he's never really been a part of anything with us. Right now, there's no talking to her. She keeps saying she wants to die if she goes into a nursing home. She has colon cancer, had a stroke and now diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She does wonky things like put salt and pepper in her tea, or put clean pots and pans in the fridge. Once she went to stir her casserole in the stove with her hand. So we are quite worried about her. They did her cognizant test and mobile test, she failed with 15 on 30. She has a 50% chance of falling because her mobility is really bad.crumbilina said:jorats said:She's being forced and not happy at all. And worse yet, now the social worker thinks she may be able to make it at home but we know she can't. It's a huge mess.crumbilina said:
Oh dear
I went through something similar with my grandmother last year. She was 93 but still sharp as a tack. Everyone kinda gave up on her, except me and my mom. We fought for her to stay home. She was so upset when they (the rest of my family) forced her in. They even tried to force her to sell her house (This was possibly the worst of all - they practically forced her to sign the papers... I freaked out - not good for her, but I made my point, and she didn't sell the house). It was horrible.
If you can talk to her about what she thinks about the whole thing it might help. Let her talk. Then, you can make her points into something good. I talked to my grandma about how she will be getting great meals and not have to make them. How there will always be someone to talk to and if you wanted to be alone you can just close the door and no one will bother you. How there were bingo nights and pianos to listen to and card games to play. I even promised her that I would call her every night, and I made sure that I did. Eventually things started to get better.
I don't know your full situation, but these are the things I wish the rest of my family would have done. After making it a positive experience the move was easier. I hope things start to improve and go a bit more smoothly for you. I would never wish for anyone to go through this, it tears at you.
:hugs:
I can say, I've never ever felt this much guilt and stress over anything else before.
crumbilina said:
jorats said:
Zooy said:5 months, where did the time go
