My little man is on his way to being 40 months this week and I've been having to keep him clear of penis plugs for about 6 months now with him having HED and all. Today when I went to clean him up, I pressed to "pop" his penis out and he GENTLY put his mouth around my finger letting me know he was not happy with that at all. I sweet talked him a little and tried again, and again he threatened with a little more teeth. I can't get his winkie to make an appearance so I can clean it...almost feels like it's stuck inside the sheath?? And is a little swollen around the penis almost like a thin donut ring. Is this common?...what is it?...and what do I need to do to keep him clean and possibly decrease his discomfort if he's in pain from me having to pop it out every day and use a babywipe to get the gunkies off?