anyone else TTC?

[pshuga03]

Is there anyone else here in the shack that's trying to conceive? I'm having a hellacious time with the two week waiting after ovulation before I can take a preggo test....just curious if anyone else was driven bonkers with it...or am I all alone :wallbang:

would also like to have a buddy to chatterbox with while I wait things out...especially since I'm a teacher and out for summer...GAH! anic: I feel like i'm spinnin' wheel down here

 

[Zooy]

We aren't TTC but will be in another year or so. We want to get married first and enjoy a few months as a couple!
I'm crossing my fingers for you!

 

[jorats]

I just graduated my youngest, I'm done with all that... lol

But sending you lots and lots of fertile vibes!!!

 

[Moon]

Took me a second to put together what TTC meant... LOL

I am no help. I am completely at the other end of the spectrum. But I wish you the best of luck!

 

[pshuga03]

**raps her fingers on the desk in anxiousness** I HATE WAITING THESE TWO WEEKS!!! :gaah: But in other news, had a super long day on my feet walking on concrete floors for about 9 hours and now I have CANKLES!! *ankles that are so swollen that they run into your calf and you lose all femininity to your ankle bone* hehe :cheeky: sexy I know...*sighs* but maybe this is a good sign?...I test on Thursday! :wallbang:

 

[jorats]

How long have you been trying?

My sister tried for several years and then they found out that her hubby had too low of a sperm count for them to conceive anyway. Which was a blessing in disguise at the time. The hubby ended up being a real jerk and they divorced.
Now she's happily remarried but children are no longer in their plans and I think she's happy about that for the most part... although, I know she still has those pangs once in a while.

 

[pshuga03]

We've been trying for over a year. The doctors told me that it would be near impossible for me to get pregnant since I have both endometriosis and PCOS. We are giving it the benefit of the doubt and haven't been to the fertility specialist since it's so darn expensvie. I had made my first appt. to start fertility meds when I found out how expensive it was...and I just can't do it. It wasn't until recently that I started thinking it might be a "problem" with his sperm and not just me **I start to feel reeeeallly guilty when time for my period comes around and I test a big fat negative, even though I know it's not my fault** He has no medical insurance though so he can't be tested :sad3: I just know that I've cleared a room out and prepared myself mentally for having kids....I just "can't".... :cry3:
And leave it to me to notice every darn pregnant person anywhere I go....and that is soOOOoo not emotionally healthy. Especially when I see someone about ehhh 15 running around with a bunch of friends and dragging a kid with a big baby bump under her shirt...I'm like WTH?!?! WHY NOT ME?!?!? Or I'm flipping through channels and I see these people with 18, 8, 6, etc etc kids and I'm thinking "God, just give me one PLEASE!!!" and I get all :cry3:

**heavy sigh** wow thanks for letting me hash that out a bit :wink: It's just a very hard thing to deal with...

 

[jorats]

Oh dear... My sister went through that the first time around. It's really hard, I do hope you have lots of support around you.
Do you know when you are ovulating? I'm sure you know about the legs up in the air after intercourse?
Also... best to abstain until it's ovulation time. You want him to have a build up so no relieving himself either.

It's really unfair when you think about it. There are so many people having children they don't even want and then there are those that really want kids and can't. Sucks.

 

[pshuga03]

We've been doing the legs up and pillow under my bottom thing and only **warning TMI** sex the 5 days during the month, per doctor's suggestion (two days before, day of, and two days after ovulation).

It does get very frustrating especially hearing advice from people like "just don't worry about it and do what's natural and all will fall into place" or "don't TRY, just have sex like you normally would" blah blah "don't think about it so much and you'll get pregnant faster" etc etc...makes me wanna :redhot:

Reason I'm here is because I don't have support and need it...and you guy/gals are especially precious and supportive in general so I though ehh who's better than rat shack buds?! no one hehe :cuddle:

 

[jorats]

That's really a shame about the people around you. But unless they've lived it or gone through it, they don't really know just how hard, frustrating, devastating it is to not be able to conceive. Some women feel they aren't real women because all the parts aren't working like it should. Make sure you don't think that way. Try and keep a strong positive attitude, the mind can work wonders.

 

[myac]

I know you've heard it a million times before and you really don't want to hear it again, but some of the people who are telling you to try and not think about it so much might be right...

My brother was in a bad car accident when he was about 18. It was a little touch-and-go for a while with all his injuries. When he finally recovered, the doctors told him that the chances of him having a kid were about the same as the chances of him getting hit by lightning.
A few years later, he started dating a woman who had the same type of problem.. she wasn't supposed to be able to have children.
So, they figured they were a good match. They would understand each other and they wouldn't have to worry about getting pregnant, even if they wanted to.

Well, they never once thought about it because it was supposed to be impossible and one day it just happened! They called my mom so excited that they could barely talk to say they were pregnant! Now I have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old miracle nephew and none of us could be happier!

So, maybe if you did try to think about it less and to think more about alternatives (ie: adopting, accepting <- even though that's almost impossible in itself) getting your mind off it could be the trick. You never know. It's worth a shot. Like Jo said, the mind can work wonders.

I hope someday you have the family you always wanted. :cuddle:

 

[Maple]

Took me a second to put together what TTC meant... LOL

I am no help. I am completely at the other end of the spectrum. But I wish you the best of luck!

Thank god I'm not alone. I was thinking more alone the lines of our transit system or "Take The Car". Sorry I'm no help. The store has long been "CLOSED" in this house.

All the best!