UhHuhHer
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I'm used to anxiety over the rats. I worry every time I make a decision with them, because I have made some uninformed decisions in the past that have had very serious consequences. I missed the early signs of pneumonia in two of my girls. I waited too long to take another in to see if a tumor could be removed. Things like that, that I haven't really been able to forgive myself for. But these are fears that I can learn from and be a better pet owner through, so I work with those and live with them.
My fears for our cat aren't that simple and I don't know how I'm supposed to get past them. I need to give some back story here, and I'm sorry that it's long.
In December 2012, my sister's cat died very suddenly at 2 years old. She had a heart defect that's actually fairly common, but almost always kills kittens very young, so living to 2 was kind of a miracle, but that didn't make it much easier. My sister and her cat did pretty much everything together and had a very deep bond, so she was very traumatized by the loss. Two nights later, my elderly childhood cat (17 years old) passed away after a final stroke. It was a miserable month.
We waited until February to get a cat again, which was a big deal for us since we haven't been without a cat since I was a year old. We ended up getting Gizmo from our local shelter. He was one of the many feral litters that are born in the field near our home, and was only a couple months old when we got him. He grew into a very large boy and had a lot of personality. He was the perfect cat for our family and - despite his very aggressive idea of play - we adored him. But he was a runner. It didn't get any better after his neuter. We had to leave the house in groups, so that someone could watch for him and make a dive for him before he could get out the door. He did escape a couple times and sent us on frantic chases through the neighborhood.
In February of the next year, he ran out without us noticing and was hit and killed by one of the many cars that have no respect for the speed limit of our neighborhood. Losing Giz was too much for all of us, and we decided that we were done with cats.
When I moved out this year, my housemates rescued a kitten and I fell in love wit him. He's our little boy and we spoil him rotten. He is only six months old and has already had to have a pretty crucial surgery. He is still so tiny, and I worry after him all the time. The problem with my anxiety is that I panic about all the awful things that could happen in a situation, but over time realize that it will be okay. The problem is, the last two kittens I panicked over (Marshmallow and Gizmo) died very young, and very suddenly. So my mind has been conditioned to perceive the possibility of loss of a cat to be much more real and crucial than my other daily worries. My brain is still convinced that, because he is my cat and I love him, I am going to lose him soon.
I don't really know what to do. I have panic attacks about him, randomly. I've become very protective of him. I'm in a constant state of stress when we can't immediately locate him. It's becoming a more and more serious problem in my life and I don't know how to get past this particular fear.
My fears for our cat aren't that simple and I don't know how I'm supposed to get past them. I need to give some back story here, and I'm sorry that it's long.
In December 2012, my sister's cat died very suddenly at 2 years old. She had a heart defect that's actually fairly common, but almost always kills kittens very young, so living to 2 was kind of a miracle, but that didn't make it much easier. My sister and her cat did pretty much everything together and had a very deep bond, so she was very traumatized by the loss. Two nights later, my elderly childhood cat (17 years old) passed away after a final stroke. It was a miserable month.
We waited until February to get a cat again, which was a big deal for us since we haven't been without a cat since I was a year old. We ended up getting Gizmo from our local shelter. He was one of the many feral litters that are born in the field near our home, and was only a couple months old when we got him. He grew into a very large boy and had a lot of personality. He was the perfect cat for our family and - despite his very aggressive idea of play - we adored him. But he was a runner. It didn't get any better after his neuter. We had to leave the house in groups, so that someone could watch for him and make a dive for him before he could get out the door. He did escape a couple times and sent us on frantic chases through the neighborhood.
In February of the next year, he ran out without us noticing and was hit and killed by one of the many cars that have no respect for the speed limit of our neighborhood. Losing Giz was too much for all of us, and we decided that we were done with cats.
When I moved out this year, my housemates rescued a kitten and I fell in love wit him. He's our little boy and we spoil him rotten. He is only six months old and has already had to have a pretty crucial surgery. He is still so tiny, and I worry after him all the time. The problem with my anxiety is that I panic about all the awful things that could happen in a situation, but over time realize that it will be okay. The problem is, the last two kittens I panicked over (Marshmallow and Gizmo) died very young, and very suddenly. So my mind has been conditioned to perceive the possibility of loss of a cat to be much more real and crucial than my other daily worries. My brain is still convinced that, because he is my cat and I love him, I am going to lose him soon.
I don't really know what to do. I have panic attacks about him, randomly. I've become very protective of him. I'm in a constant state of stress when we can't immediately locate him. It's becoming a more and more serious problem in my life and I don't know how to get past this particular fear.